An online auction of donated goods and services, to raise money for SANDS, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity.

We are gearing up to a new auction. For more information, please visit our Facebook page; by following the link below.

Once the auction has finished, please allow us some time to process all the bids and confirm the highest bidder on each lot. We ask that you then pay for your lot(s) within 48 hours using the lot number as a reference number. Once payment has been received, we will then contact the individual/company who donated your lot(s) with your contact details. Unless otherwise specified, postage will be second class recorded.

We hope you find something you like - happy bidding!

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

Baby Loss Awareness Week

October 9th to 15th is Baby Loss Awareness Week, which finishes with the Wave of Light. Every year I am moved by the photos of candles, lit in memory of loved and missed babies that fill my timelines and feeds. I am privileged to have become friends with other parents who have lost babies, and we are always touched by how many of our friends and family remember Benedict. It gives us a chance to say his name out loud and share our pride and love for our son.

This year, a Twibbon campaign has shed further light on the topic of Baby Loss Awareness. And I have been amazed at how many profile pictures have turned #pinkandblue. I shouldn't be. I know the facts and statistics. I know how many of my friends and family have lost a baby. But I have been surprised because it's not something we normally know about strangers; that they too carry the weight of this pain. It's understandable, we don't announce our loss to the world, it's personal and far too important to share with just anyone. But more than that, we know it makes others uncomfortable. No-one wants to think about their own mortality, much less think about losing their child. So often, even when we want to talk about our children we don't, not to spare our emotions, but others'.

I can't count the number of internal struggles I have faced since we lost Benedict. As simple a question as 'how many children do you have?' from a friend of a friend or a new colleague is no longer small talk. Timehop and Facebook memories don't discriminate. So often I want to remind people of what we lost and who we miss. But it never quite feels right to talk about him there, amongst the holiday snaps, the mock-Victorian memes and the funny animal videos. I think of him and I hope he understands that his name isn't on my lips as often as it is in my head or my heart.

Every day, my heart breaks over and over again. There are four toothbrushes in our bathroom instead of five; two car-seats in the back of my car, not three; two sets of shoes, coats and hats at the backdoor, ready for the morning rush. Every time I watch my girls together, and note their similarities and differences I daydream - who would Benedict be most like? Would he inherit my stubborn streak like his sisters both have? Did he have John's blue eyes like they do, or did one of my children have my green eyes? Talking about him isn't what make me sad. More often than not, it's the not talking about him.


Of course, the people that need to hear about this topic are the very people it's hardest to talk to about it. Expectant parents do not want to hear the stories of how easily and quickly things can go wrong. But as difficult as it is, we need to talk about our babies. Because only by saying out loud just how many babies die can we hope to reduce the numbers. So campaigns such as Count The Kicks are so vital in promoting awareness. I remember clearly the discussions about SIDS (cot death) at our ante natal classes - a whole hour long session was devoted to it, but not a word about stillbirth, yet stillbirths are 10 times as common as cot death. If we can save just one baby by telling the story of how we lost our own, than it is more than worth it. We need to have these difficult conversations. We need to remind women that their instinct is worth trusting.

So let's say our babies' names out loud.


Thursday, 2 October 2014

Payments :)

We are still waiting for a few payments. If you do need to pay for your item(s), please visit, click on 'Donate Now' button under the thermometer, and follow the steps from there. It is pretty straitforward and they accept Paypal or card payments. If you are able, please do add Gift Aid. It makes a huge difference.
Once you have paid, please let us know your contact details, and confirm any choices you need to make, and we can arrange to get you lovely lots out to you lovely lot.
If you are having any problems making the payment, please send us a message and we will try and help as best we can.

If we do not receive payment by October 10th, we will offer the lot to the next highest bidder.

Thank you all.

Sunday, 28 September 2014

And that's it!

Thank you all so much for joining us for this auction - the auction has now finished and we will confirm all the winning bids as soon as possible; please bear with us.

We really appreciate all your help, so huge thanks to those of you who have donated items, shared details of the auction, and placed a bid.

Friday, 26 September 2014

40. Deep tissue massage

Lot number forty:

One hour long session. Massage away the stresses and strains with a qualified sports therapist and masseuse; focuses on realigning deeper layers of muscles and connective tissue. It is especially helpful for chronic aches and pains and contracted areas such as stiff neck and upper back, low back pain, leg muscle tightness, and sore shoulders.

Deep tissue massage usually focuses on a specific problem, such as chronic muscle pain, injury rehabilitation, and the following conditions:
  • Chronic pain
  • Lower back pain
  • Limited mobility
  • Recovery from injuries (e.g. whiplash, falls, sports injury)
  • Repetitive strain injury, such as carpal tunnel syndrome
  • Postural problems
  • Muscle tension in the hamstrings, glutes, IT band, legs, quadriceps, rhomboids, upper back
  • Osteoarthritis pain
  • Sciatica 
  • Piriformis syndrome
  • Tennis elbow
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Muscle tension or spasm
  • After a workout or bodybuilding

Local only (Orpington). To be claimed within one year.

39. Custom fascinator

Lot thirty-nine:

A unique fascinator/headpiece, designed to your specifications, from Lovelight Designs. Whether you're a bride to be, off to the races, or just like wearing feathers in your hair, now is your chance to get a custom fascinator made just for you.

Mainland UK postage included. Custom made item, will be shipped with two weeks of payment and confirming choices.

38. Sling hire

Lot number thirty-eight:

One months hire of the sling of your choice from Tunbridge Wells sling library; Have Child, Will Carry.

Have Child, Will Carry are a sling library based in Kent, offering local in-person hire and nationwide postal hire. They have an extensive collection of over 100 carriers, and offer a professional and friendly service, with information and support always available. Their extensive hiring catalogue can be viewed over at or

Mainland UK postage included. Please note, you will need to pay a refundable deposit in addition to your bid.

37. Chocolate brownies

Lot number thirty-seven:


From the lovely Cakes by Chrissie; a delicious batch of chocolate brownies. Choose either Oreo (yum) or triple chocolate (triple yum!)

Mainland UK postage included. To be claimed within one year.